I recently asked my audience in my FB group the question ‘what did you used to love doing as a little kid?’
Do you do any of the things that you liked to do as a kid, either as a hobby, as a practice, as a stress reliever.
Most of us don't, and that's the thing we are so missing in moving forward!
So many people pointed out they wanted more fun and frolics in their life, but then they don't go back to the things that they always loved to do.
People are afraid to want more play in their life because they aren’t sure where it fits with all of the responsibilities and ‘grown up’ tasks.
The more adventurous people will go and say, "Okay, I'm going to jump out of a plane."
That's awesome. There's an adrenaline rush for five minutes, and then you come back down and you're back down at your regular status and you're not creating an environment in your life where fun and frolics and adventure and curiosity can continue to come into play on a continual basis, but rather jumping from high to high, literally and figuratively.
Instead of us always looking for another new answer, we even do it not only in business and in life, but we do it in our own creativity realm thinking I have to go learn a new skill.
There needs to be a new hobby.
I need to go find a new exercise class.
I have to go read a book because that's what everyone told me to do. Instead of constantly looking outside of ourselves to find the answers for the things that we want, what if we built a habit in our curiosity of going back to what we used to like to do.
Because what we do when we do that, is we listen to our intuition whether you're ‘woo’ or not, you know automatically when you like something.
But as an adult, moving from when we were children, we forget what we like!
We forget to bring it with us and we think it's not okay or it's childish or it's naive or it's a waste of time because we have so many more important things to focus on, but then you're leaving your essence back there where our inner answer lay.
Then when you try to do new things, when you wanna learn new skills, when you wanna push forward in your business, when you wanna be brave in your relationships, you don't have your inner essence, which is what drove you when you were little, in order to accomplish those things.
That's why we get this adrenaline rush to try something and then we drop out of either overwhelm or frustration or we get bored very easily.
It's because we're trying to do something outside of our regular way.
I want to encourage you to take a look at the list that you wrote of things you liked to do when you were little.
Go back to what you liked when you were little.
Why did you like it?
Why did it mean so much to you and how can you bring it in now?
I always loved art, I still do love art, but there's certain things that I don't like.
I don't like fine art.
I found that out trying fine art and it felt forced and uncomfortable for me.
I don't like being in a class.
I don't like when it's supposed to look a certain way.
And I certainly don’t like being told what to do!
I took what I use to like and now at, almost 43, I do it my way.
If I'm in the mood, I'll go down to my basement where I have my art studio.
I'll go do something for ME.
It's not for anyone.
I don't have to sell it like I used to.
No one else has to see it, but to capture the essence of the fun and frolics that you used to have, find the feeling and recreate it in your life now.
What can that look like?
Because it's not about what it was.
It's not about, Well, I'm not good at basketball so I'm not going to play anymore.
We were taught in our societies as children, unless you can master something, move on.
If you're not the best chess player, you're never going to make the chess team, so don't bother.
You're not the best dancer, don't try out for the dance team.
It doesn't matter if you can master it. it's for you to enjoy, expand and create.
It's something that drives a spark in you to have more fuel to do things, to do things more your way, to stop asking permission from everybody else.
Use the feeling to go find what it is, create that spark in yourself and then use the spark to focus on your life, on your business, on your relationships, because it's not about the activity, it's about the feeling that lights up inside of you.
From that changed state, you can do anything, you can plow through the to do list, which you may find boring.
You can make the phone calls that you're scared of.
You can face the conversations that you may not feel ready for.
You can press publish on a live stream, in your high school cheerleading outfit like me, because I don't care anymore.
I finally remembered how I like to feel when I'm playful, which I had completely forgotten about!
So…. I was just being a regular grown up muggle, not well either, I might add, and then I wasn't really being me, and I certainly wasn't being like everyone else, so I was kind of like being nothing and that's when my body started aching, things were falling apart in my life, because I wasn't listening to any of it.
It's about re-routing and turning the mirror inwards and saying, forget what everyone else thinks if it's okay or not, if you can weave in what ifs and curiosity and adventure and playfulness back into everyday life, even for a few minutes a day, it changes all the tasks you think you're suppose to do to get where you say you want to go.
If I'm not good at something straight away, I usually give up.
I have to be the best, I can't help it.
We're all like that in different ways because it's how we were taught.
Why would you bother wasting energy on something if you're not gonna be good at?
We're taught that from a young age.
We do it to our kids.
If my son isn't good at trying out for the hockey team, to save him from pain, when he was little, I would say, "You know what sweetie? Why don't we try tennis instead."
You know what he did? He mastered both hockey and tennis, because he was a little kid and he didn't give a shit.
My adultness I put on him because I didn't want him to feel rejection.
Sometimes that rejection or that fear of not being good enough drives us to go do something better.
To better ourselves, to practice more, to test our boundaries, to find out what's behind it, to see what's stopping us, but yet we don't bring it into our adult life and that's why I think fun and frolics runs everything else, because you're being the most you that you want to be, without even thinking about it.
You don't have to plan it.
This isn't something that you can read 15 books and master, you just go back inside and remember who you are and then you turn it and use it in every area of your life.
Now, that doesn't mean it's going to affect your ROI day one, but it will certainly make you show up differently every day in your work, which will definitely magnetized people to your work.
It's not about worrying if it's going to change the last bit of the story, but it's about creating the most you that you can so you can bring yourself as fully to whatever it is you do.
I’d like to challenge you to start exploring this.
What could you bring in, what you could start doing in your life. Yeah, we all don't have time. Yeah, we don't have the money to go extra stuff. I hear all the excuses. I am spending my work day in my cheerleading outfit, okay?
That didn't cost me anything, it didn't change my schedule, it makes me laugh, my clients will either laughter or think I'm crazy and I don't really give a shit because if they have an issue with it, I mean this with love, they're not my people so the more me I am.
I promise you I'll be more on fire today, because I'm dressed like this, because I've been giggling for an hour that I'm wearing an itchy sweater and very excited by the fact that it's big on me.
I'm gonna go with this today.
I actually put lipstick on, which doesn't usually happen.
I brushed my hair, which doesn't usually happen.
It changes my state, whatever it is that you can do to bring more of your spark back in, make yourself a list, even if you do it once a week.
Can’t wait to hear what you come up with.